The non-date date, or end of year reflection

31 Dec

So, the other day I met a guy. He had posted a message on a site I visit often, asking if anyone was up for a drink on Friday night, and I answered. It wasn’t a date, it was just two strangers meeting for a drink at a bar.

Right away I liked him very much. He was cute, polite, nice, funny, dorky, and cool at the same time, but this was not a date.

We talked, and laughed, and drank mojitos and beer, and a moscato and vodka cocktail that he taught the bartender. I was having such a good time, I could not believe it, but this was not a date.

I don’t remember what time it was when he decided to pay the bill while I was in the restroom, but after he paid, he invited me to take a walk up to the beach that was right around the corner. This was still not a date.

We sat on the sand, and it started raining. I took out my umbrella and we huddled under it. I leaned my head on his shoulder while we talked, and talked, and laughed, but still this was not a date.

After a while, we walked up to a playground nearby and sat on a bench. We talked some more until I felt that my bladder was about to burst and so I had to go home. We had met at 6 pm, and it was now 1 am.

So what happened next? The usual, he didn’t call or text the next day. I texted him on Sunday, inviting him to see a very impressive cave called Cueva Ventana. He said he had to work but didn’t offer another alternative.

This is the last day of the year. I’m sitting in a dark movie theater, about to watch Anna Karenina, and trying really hard not to reflect on this past year. I feel like it’s been so full of rejection, of inexplicable behavior from men, and in summary, a lot of heartache.


One Response to “The non-date date, or end of year reflection”


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