Why can’t we be friends?

9 Nov

WARNING:  Before you read my post, get yourself a drink.  Every time you read the words:  fuck, fucking, or fucked, take a swig.  After that, send me your drunken advice, cause I fucking need it.  ¡Salud!

Argh!!!!!!  Aren’t men like the “simpler” ones?  So, what the fuck?!!!  Two days have gone by that me and Necessary Roughness Guy haven’t talked or texted.  I’ve kept my distance because the last time he said something about being at the funeral home but didn’t give me any details.  So, today, out of the blue, he texts:  “just need time for myself, i’m tired, need some space.”

W H A T    I N    F U C K I N G    H E L L?!!!

Are we in a relationship already?  Have I smothered him with my constant NOT calling?  Ugh!!!!!  I texted him.  Told him I wasn’t understanding him.  He didn’t respond.

I am so fucking tired of having to make an effort to be able to understand those fucking idiots!  Why can’t it be simple?  State your fucking intentions and ask me if I’m down with it.  If you are the one who’s not down with it, just fucking say it and move on, but don’t leave me hanging!  Cause that is plain fucked up.

Again, I have to ask:  Can someone please explain?


5 Responses to “Why can’t we be friends?”

  1. Fern DeVilliers November 9, 2012 at 5:09 am #

    I think relationships are harder than ever these days. Not sure what’s going on with this guy. Be strong, and if he’s taken himself out of it, then move on. Don’t waste time with someone who doesn’t know what (or who) they want.

    • caramelolimon November 9, 2012 at 11:35 am #

      I think you are right, and I think that, since he didn’t respond to my message, the next time he calls (and he will) I should not answer and just text back: “I need space.” But the thing is that I have trouble letting go of things I can’t understand until they are explained, so I’m sure that if he calls (when he calls) I will answer. :S

  2. shamelesssinglegirl November 11, 2012 at 6:35 am #

    My friends and I like to keep in mind the following assumption:
    Men are stupid.
    Oh yes, we know generalizing is horrible, and it can be pretty harmful when both sides do it, but here’s the thing: if we run with that premise we won’t be surprised no matter how idiotically they behave, and if they don’t, we’ll be positively surprised. It’s a win-win. Sort of. Also, that thing where men are the “simpler” ones? Blatant lies. We’re not complicated, they just can’t figure us out.

    Ok, enough hatin’. In all seriousness, there are two options here. First being, something serious actually happened and that’s why he hasn’t found the time/mood to reciprocate. Yes, it *is* possible, but perhaps not so probable going from the fact that it’s not so complicated to respond to a freaking text. The second one, of course, is that he’s evaluating multiple options at the same time, and the fact that he’s considering you means he can’t say yes/no quite yet – because there may be other people he’s simultaneously interested in. In which case, you should… take whatever course of action you deem necessary. Do get some evidence though.

    • caramelolimon November 12, 2012 at 12:02 am #

      It is getting kind of difficult for me to even analyze this. I actually feel like a kid who got burned when she touched a flame, but the next time she sees one she can’t help but touch it. I’m really fighting with all my will to not get discouraged and to not think that there’s something wrong with me. (Damn, I’m whiny today!)

      • shamelesssinglegirl November 13, 2012 at 4:49 am #

        Believe me, I’m on the same boat right now. With a chronic workaholic, no less. I might whine and bitch but then he asks if I want to see a movie, and being the idiot I can be I’ll say yes and cue even more whining and bitching. Worst part being? I know I could do better. Happens to the best of us, just get distracted and meet new people. Hopefully, if he should call back, you’ll be too busy with your exciting life to care. 😉

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