I had sex for the first time almost a year after my divorce, two years after the separation. Lollypop Guy became a fuck buddy who surfaces every now and then for one or two encounters, and then fades away. We have crazy chemistry. When we get together, there’s so much passion, so much desire. I haven’t felt like this with any other man after him. We get along pretty well, but we don’t have much in common, other than our mutual enjoyment of each other. That’s why we both know that we will stay fuck buddies and nothing more.
The last time Lollypop Guy and I were together was about five months ago. Last week, out of the blue, he started texting again. I, not really knowing if I wanted to see him this time, ignored his texts. He called the day before yesterday. We had a nice, friendly conversation. Got up to speed with each other, and then he mentioned that he was seeing someone. That gave me pause, but his voice is so enticing, and you could hear the desire in it. I let him believe that I would see him later in the week. I needed time to think and make up my mind as to what to do.
I’ve been alone pretty much since Pilot Guy. Aside from a brief and not noteworthy encounter with Six Kids Guy, I haven’t had sex in quite a while. I’ve also been talking to a new guy from the dating site, but we haven’t met in person and I’m not sure it’s going to work. Sailor Guy has his own set of issues. All in all, I’m pretty lonely and sad, so a good fuck with a hot guy would actually be a great temptation.
Lollypop Guy is quite hot. So what if he is dating someone? They both live pretty far from where I live. I’m sure we don’t know each other. We don’t run in the same circles. Most likely she will never find out. Besides, he has been My fuck buddy for the past three years. I have precedence. And I’m so lonely… and he does me like no one else has ever done me.
I had to say no. I couldn’t live with the knowledge that I did to someone else the exact same thing that hurt me so much. I know I could have rationalized the shit out of having sex with Lollypop Guy. I may have inadvertently had sex with him while he was dating someone else before. But this time I knew. There was no way of unknowing the fact. The biggest thing is that, no matter how great the sex is, I want to do it with someone who will also choose to be with me. Why the fuck do I have to give this guy the best sex he’s had in a long time (his words) when he does not, and will not, choose me?
We talked on the phone this morning. He wants me because he hasn’t found anybody who does him quite the way I do, not even the girl he’s dating now. I almost fell for his bullshit. Just now he texted: “I was honest with you. I deserve at least one last time as a goodbye.” My answer? There’s no need for goodbyes.